celebrating getting stuck, practicing compassionate curosity
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Hey Reader I just got an email from my accountant saying that my corporate taxes look good and are almost done. Oh, the happy dance I danced!!! And this feels like a part 2 to something I shared in my workshop on Tuesday. In my workshop on Tuesday, one of the things I talked about was celebrating getting stuck. I know that hitting a wall feels terrible. Procrastination makes me feel guilty and shameful (maybe it makes you feel the same?) And 'pushing through' feels harder than putting effort in while in flow. But also hitting that wall means you're at a growth edge. You're stuck because you're working on something outside your comfort zone. You're walking outside of your current paradigms and belief systems. And it sucks when you're like, "I know I should be doing this. I WANT to do this. But I can't seem to get going." That's where compassionate curiosity comes in. The example I gave on Tuesday was about my accountant. I had to switch to someone new because my previous tax preparer was overloaded. So they didn't know me and my books, and they sent me a half-page list of questions when I gave them my files. Addressing their questions was an item that got pushed to the next day way more days than I'd like to admit. I decided I needed to break the task down further - create a to-do list from that email. That also got pushed off. So I had to have a talk with myself. It sounded a little like this: Wow, Brittany. You've been avoiding this for a while now, hey? You must have some big feelings about it.
Yup. Don't want to do it.
Want to tell me why?
Nope.
Are you worried about something?
Yeah! What if all his questions are because I've made a mistake and he thinks I'm stupid and then everyone will think I'm stupid and no one will like me.
And there we have it. The belief that's driving my avoidance. I could tell you where that belief comes from too, but that makes for a much longer story. The gift that's there is that now I can reassure myself. I can give evidence that challenges those beliefs. And I can adapt my plan so I can still kindly hold myself accountable to the things that are important to me. And I can do the happy dance when something goes well. How might you practice some compassionate curiosity for yourself today? Need help with the compassionate curiosity piece? It's one of my sweet spots. Drop me a line and we can talk! Sending you lots of love, |
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